Robert E. Stegman Eulogy

Rob Stegman, Jr. • December 9, 2011 • Saint James, Monkton

Dad was many things to many people. As we grappled with words to capture his essence, these came to mind: Gentleman. Jokester. Bargain shopper. Husband. Father, and Grandfather. He was a Patriot. Dancer. Harmonica Player. Hunter, and Crease Attack man. He was an avid Traveler. Reader. Golfer. Pool Player, and Lover of Music. Dad was all of these things, but above all he was a friend.

One of the most outstanding qualities that Dad possessed was his jovial nature. We know that each and every person in this church has at least one, but more likely countless memories of Dad that bring a smile to your face or even make you laugh right out loud. One of the more amusing hobbies he had was bargain shopping. We often came home after work to find a package of meat in the icebox, and shortly thereafter the phone call would come: "If you don't have the chicken tonight, you better freeze it." Whether it was a surprise gift of a gallon of olive oil, a Smithfield ham that was only 10 cents a pound, or a piece of the BEST smelling Italian soap, his little gifts, no matter how small, became a special treat that will be missed. We can still think of him, however, every time we need chocolate sauce, a new razor, shaving cream, a can of baked beans, a jar of jelly, a pint of peppermint ice cream, or spaghetti sauce because there are still enough of each stockpiled at the house to last 5 years, maybe more. What a kick he got out of each deal!

Perhaps the most endearing of Dad's qualities was his unquenchable curiosity for people. Wherever he went, he had the ability to connect with anyone and make them feel special. In stores, banks, restaurants, or any place he may have just "popped into", he was able to captivate people by his jokes, humorous antics, and his kindheartedness. After engaging in conversation with them, it is safe to say that they had made a lasting impression on him, and he on them. After getting their life story, he would often revisit them weeks later, like an old friend. It has been amazing over the past week to see the sheer number of people whose lives he has indelibly touched. With that being said, the most valuable lesson that we can take away by following his example is to reach out. Talk to people. Turn to the person behind you in line, smile and say "hi". Tell your waitress, "MY, you're beautiful." It is only by doing this that you can find commonalities, make friendships, and appreciate people as Dad did. He lived the Golden Rule.

In closing, I urge you to cherish and embrace your family, despite their imperfections. Be thankful for, and take pleasure in your work. Surround yourself with good and honest people who love you. Always have a kind word for a stranger, and remember that you live the life you choose. Make it memorable.

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